Students who display a passive-aggressive personality style may do so in a variety of ways … from chronic tardiness to sleeping in class. Let’s look at the student who’s always running late.
As you know, some students are late to class on a regular basis, and in doing so are probably displaying a form of resistance or defiance—and it is wise to see it as such.
When questioned about their habitual lateness, students are apt to justify or excuse it on the grounds that they have other tasks to attend to, such as child care or job responsibilities that preempt punctual class attendance. Many instructors are thus made to feel guilty and are thereby disarmed by such reasons or excuses. They allow students to talk them into considering these excuses as authentic extenuations.
If this sounds familiar to you, here are a few opinions on the subject to consider.
- Arriving to class punctually is an important responsibility borne entirely by the student, not the instructor.
- Although child care or job responsibilities are clearly time consuming, and when combined with the demands connected with attending college can be downright overwhelming, it is again largely the responsibility of the student, not the instructor, to decide which takes priority — one’s job, one’s child care responsibilities, or punctually attending classes.
- Lateness is often a rude and disruptive form of behavior, especially when it is accompanied by doors opening and shutting, loud noises, and students distractingly passing in front of the instructor to get to their seats.
- Habitual lateness to class, much like when friends or family members habitually arrive late for social gatherings and usually infuriate us because of their thoughtlessness, is typically a sign of devaluation of and contempt for instructors and other students who have arrived to class punctually. Even more important, it is most likely a sign of devaluation and contempt for one’s own education, albeit unconscious, since the student’s habitual lateness will necessarily curtail his or her time in class and cause the student to forfeit important opportunities for learning.
- Instructors who habitually arrive late to class themselves are poor models for their students and should find any reasonable means possible to correct this form of unprofessional behavior.
Generally speaking, strict rules and adverse consequences for chronic lateness almost always improve attendance and punctuality. Remember, this form of passive-aggressive behavior can be remedied if you allow yourself to use a clear, fair, and proportionate set of adverse consequences to deal with it.
Excerpted from Coping with Seven Disruptive Personality Types in the Classroom, a whitepaper from Magna Publications.
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The school rules have been established in partnership with the community over a long period of time. They reflect the school community’s expectations in terms of acceptable standards of behaviour, dress and personal presentation in the widest sense. Students are expected to follow the school rules at all times when on the school grounds, representing the school, attending a school activity or when clearly associated with the school i.e. when wearing school uniform.
Students have the responsibility:
- To attend school regularly
- To respect the right of others to learn
- To respect their peers and teachers regardless of ethnicity, religion or gender
- To respect the property and equipment of the school and others
- To carry out reasonable instructions to the best of their ability
- To conduct themselves in a courteous and appropriate manner in school and in public
- To keep the school environment and the local community free from litter
- To observe the uniform code of the school
- To read all school notices and bring them to their parents’/guardians’ attention
A. GENERAL CONDUCT
Students are representatives of our school from leaving home until they return and are thus expected to set themselves a high standard of behaviour both inside and outside the school.
B. THE SCHOOL UNIFORM and GROOMING
should be worn tidily and correctly both at school and between home and school. The full school uniform must be worn at all times. Shirts are to be tucked in; socks are to be pulled up; heel straps in place. Where a situation arises concerning a student’s uniform, written requests for temporary wearing of non-regulation items must be referred to a Dean or Deputy Headmaster.
Students are to be clean-shaven at all times while representing the school.
No visible jewellery is to be worn. Jewellery of religious or cultural significance may be worn but must be covered at all times.
No piercings are allowed. In particular, clear plastic studs, or otherwise, used to maintain the piercing, are not allowed.
A student’s hair must be kept clean and tidy at all times. The length of the hair should not be shorter than a “number 2” razor cut. Hair should not be touching the shirt collar and should be off the face. The fringe when straightened /combed down must not hang in the eyes. The style of the hair should not be extreme including but not limited to mohawk, afro, shaved styles and/or patterns, hair tied up and braided. The colour must be the student’s own natural colour; no dye nor highlights are allowed.
Make-up must not be worn. Students are not permitted to have visible tattoos.
C. The following are not to be brought on to the school grounds:
- Alcohol or drugs in any form
- Cigarettes or tobacco
- Knives or other weapons, including BB guns
- Matches/lighters/explosive or dangerous material
- Pornographic or any other offensive material
- Skateboards or scooters or similar
- Expensive bicycles or bicycle accessories or other costly equipment
- Mobile phones will be permitted in school.
- Students will be able to use them on the way to and from school.
- Students will be able to use them in class as learning devices with the express permission of the teacher. Such permission must be sought and received before their use.
- Students will not be permitted to use mobile phones in the school grounds, or during Form Period.
If a student uses a mobile phone inappropriately, or in contravention of the school’s policy, he will be sanctioned accordingly. Mobile phones will not be confiscated except in circumstances where a member of staff considers the device to be a harmful or disruptive influence.
Devices (Laptops / Notebooks / Tablets)
- Devices will be permitted in school.
- Students will be able to use them in class as learning devices with the express permission of the teacher.
- Students will not be permitted to use devices in the school grounds during Interval and Lunch.
If a student uses a device inappropriately, or in contravention of the school’s policy, he will be sanctioned accordingly. Devices will not be confiscated except in circumstances where a member of staff considers the device to be a harmful or disruptive influence.
The security and protection, within reason, of the device will be the responsibility of the student.
D. The following are strictly forbidden on school property when students are under school discipline or attending a school function:
- smoking and the use of alcohol or other drugs, or being in the company of those who are smoking or using alcohol or drugs.
- distributing of literature or any form of written matter (without the prior permission of the Headmaster or Deputy Headmasters).
E. Cyber Safety
There are times when inappropriate use of social media is brought to our attention. Students are expected to read the School’s Cyber Safety Agreement and abide by the conditions contained in the Agreement.
F. BULLYING. Any form, verbal or physical, or any means of bullying or victimisation is strictly forbidden.
G. LITTER. It is the responsibility of every student in the school to ensure that the school is free from litter. Students are also encouraged to take the responsibility for litter in their immediate vicinity and place any litter in the many bins placed around the school.
H. EXEAT PASSES. Students are required to attend all classes and remain in the school grounds. No student may leave the school grounds during interval or lunch without prior permission. This includes collecting books/gear from cars.
When leaving school during the day to attend dental/medical or similar appointments, the boys must sign in and out at the Attendance Office or to see a Dean.
I. LEAVE APPLICATIONS. Parents, please consider carefully the effect on learning and the consequences of asking for leave during school time. The process of applying for leave is for parents/guardians to write to the Headmaster well in advance, notifying dates and the reason for absence. Each application is considered fully by the student’s teachers and Deans, before being granted or otherwise by the Headmaster.
J. LATES. All boys must be at school by 8.45am. Latecomers must report to the Attendance Office before going to class. The student will only be admitted to class by the teacher upon presentation of a ”Late Pass” from the Attendance Officer.
K. ABSENCES. If you know your son is going to be absent for any reason please call the Attendance Office and leave a message with student’s name, form class, contact number and reason for the absence. After an absence from school a boy must bring, on the day of return, a note signed by his parents/guardian, stating the reason for the absence and take it to the Attendance Officer. In the event of the absence exceeding 2 days, the school should be informed whilst the student is absent from school.
L. All articles of clothing, shoes, books, bags and other personal property should be clearly marked with the owner’s name.
No responsibility can be accepted for unmarked property. Boys losing or finding lost property should in the first instance report to Student Services.
M. BICYCLES are to be kept in the racks provided in the enclosure behind N2 and N3. This is locked during the school day but boys are strongly advised to secure their bikes with a lock. Basic Traffic Department road safety rules must be obeyed to and from school. Bicycles may not be ridden in school grounds. It is compulsory for all boys riding bicycles to school to wear helmets.
N. MOTOR VEHICLES. Boys wishing to bring motor vehicles or motor cycles to school must follow basic Traffic Department road safety rules. Motor vehicles may not be parked on school grounds and are not to be used during the school day without the prior permission of one of the Deputy Headmasters.
O. DAMAGE of any kind must be reported immediately to a Deputy Headmaster or Dean. In the case of wilful damage or negligence, boys will be expected to contribute part or all of the cost of repair.