Sources Of Happiness Essay Title

I sometimes hesitate when I use the word “happiness” on Always Well Within.  I don’t want to give the wrong impression.

“Happiness” can easily be taken to mean a state of constant joy and bliss.  Or organizing the externals of your life so that everything runs perfectly.  Then there’s the idea of  focusing on attracting only the positive into your life.

That’s not what I mean by happiness at all.  So I often use the word “true” or “genuine” to modify happiness and thus hint at a deeper meaning.

What I Mean By “True” Happiness

When we take a moment to look at those around us, we can see that the simple wish to be happy and to avoid suffering is the common denominator that unites us all.

Looking at the world today, we might easily forget that the main purpose of our life – you could call it the heart of being human – is to be happy.  All of us share the same wish, and the same right, to seek happiness and avoid suffering.  Even following a spiritual path, or the religious life, is a quest for happiness. – Sogyal Rinpoche

But often we confuse happiness with a momentary state of pleasure or passing feeling of joy.  We look to experiences or material possession to bring us satisfaction.  While this is sometimes the case, the sense of pleasure is never long lasting.

For example, I enjoy my new Kindle tremendously, but I can assure you it’s not the source of true happiness.  When it runs out of juice, it quickly becomes the source of minor irritation.  Likewise, when I’m unable to access the internet to purchase a book.  Should it break or wear out – as all material things do – I will feel disgruntled.

The same thing with a sumptuous meal.  It might delight for awhile, but it doesn’t lead to a deeper happiness.  It may even cause indigestion.

Let’s not even talk about relationships, which are typically fraught with ups and downs, and are, by their very nature, impermanent.

According to the Oxford Dictionary of English “happy” means feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.

We can immediately eliminate the word “pleasure” from the definition of true happiness.  As we have seen, pleasure can never bring a long-lasting sense of happiness and it often brings suffering in its wake.

The word “contentment” contains some of the same meanings as happiness.  However, it’s also defined as a sense of “ease.”

Take a moment to think of someone you know who exudes contentment.

  • Don’t they seem unruffled by the winds of life?
  • Don’t they seem to have an inner strength of being?
  • A simple wisdom that carries them through all the chaos and drama of life?

This comes far closer to what I mean by true happiness.  It’s not a momentary feeling of joy, but a perspective and a way of being.

Two Approaches to True Happiness

Setting aside the material, happiness can come about in two ways.

1. On an ordinary level, there are many ways we can train our mind in happiness.  For example, we can choose loving thoughts, words, and actions.  The more we cultivate love, compassion, joy and impartiality, the more we will become a vibrant source of happiness for others.  And for ourselves too.

2. On a profound level, when we are in touch with our true nature – our innermost essence – joy naturally arises.  We don’t have to do anything in particular to create it.  It just flows up when we abide in our natural mind.  Other emotions may arise like sadness, anger, worry, or fear, but they won’t necessarily stick if we become accustomed to simply resting in the clear and open space of our original mind.

So, where do we find this lasting happiness?  In the realization of the ultimate nature of ourselves.  Everything is here within us.  The truth is within us.  Happiness is within us.  True happiness and peace of mind cannot be found in anything external; it can only be found within. – Sogyal Rinpoche

These two approaches to cultivating happiness are interconnected.  Actively engaging in positive thoughts, words, and deeds brings us closer to our true nature.  When we are in touch with our true nature, these positive qualities spontaneously manifest.

Most of us are not even aware of our innermost essence.

We spend all our time embroiled in our thoughts and emotions.  We think thoughts and emotions are the real self.  But thoughts and emotions are simply like clouds passing by in the open, clear space of our original mind.  Sometimes the clouds are white and puffy.  Sometimes they are stormy.  But they are never permanent, nor are they our true essence.  All our suffering comes from confusing the clouds for the sky and holding on to them ever so tightly.

When the mind goes beyond the thought of ‘the me,’ the experiencer, the observer, the thinker, then there is a possibility of a happiness that is incorruptible.  – Jiddu Krishnamurti

Can you imagine an incorruptible happiness?  Now that’s closer to my meaning when I speak of true happiness.

How Do We Find True Happiness?

These days, so many people are wondering how to find happiness.  Yet the path to happiness is a simple one.

Follow these steps to a more lasting happiness:

  1. Eliminate negative attitudes, actions, and words.  All the ones that cause suffering for self and others.
  2. Adopt positive attitudes, actions, and words.  All the ones that cause happiness for self and others.
  3. Reconnect with your true nature – the wellspring of happiness, inner peace, compassion, and wisdom – through the practice of meditation.  Learn more about meditation:  21 Meditation Tips You Need to Know As a Beginner.

It’s not about “good” or “bad” in a moralistic sense.  It’s about looking deeply to see which actions actually bring true happiness on the long run, and which ones are bound to bring suffering upon suffering.

Simple doesn’t mean easy, however.

We have a lifetime of bad habits to counter.  There’s the hyperactive mind to pacify.  Or the dull mind that needs to wake up.  Happiness requires discipline and effort.  But nourished by happiness, discipline becomes joyful and effort becomes spacious and relaxed.  It’s becomes a self-seeding cycle of ever-growing calm, clarity, and insight.

Dig within. Within is the wellspring of good; and it is always ready to bubble up, if you just dig.” – Marcus Aurelius

Ultimately, we can be free of suffering.  There is a path to true happiness and freedom from suffering.  Start now by engaging in positive actions and eliminating the negative ones.

Recommended Reading on Meditation and the Nature of Mind

  • The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche
  • The Joy of Living, Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
  • Rebel Buddha, On the Road to Freedom by Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche

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Happiness

Happiness has been a controversial topic for many years now. Some people believe it is an end goal while others take it as the beginning point to greatness. People usually draw happiness from different things. Generally, happiness has to do with an emotional and mental state of welfare that can be characterized through pleasant and positive emotion such as contentment and joy. However, happiness and its sources have been defined differently based on religious, biological, philosophical and psychological grounds. This essay seeks to demystify the puzzle about happiness and how it is attained.

One of the strongest theories used to discuss about happiness is positive psychology that has focused on cognition, personality and mood. Every person has an innate sunny disposition. However, researchers from different backgrounds believe that human beings can learn how to create more meaning and gratification in life. So, what is happiness? Can there be one definite statement used to define it? Well, most people believe that it is the thought of having a good life without suffering, having pleasure, prosperity and joy among other such like things. However, that cannot be enough to define happiness. May be it is just a part of it. People can still be happy even without material wealth. Again, not all rich people are happy. Therefore, happiness is more than what we think. It is not an end goal. Basically, it is something that is continuous and is founded on certain truths that go beyond having pleasure and getting tangible things that we ever wanted.

In the United States, the pursuit of happiness is considered a fundamental right for the Americans and has deeply preoccupied their minds. However, not every person understands what happiness is all about. Can it be studied or were people born with it? Is there a way people can be happier? It is not easy to define happiness because it is very elusive to attain it. People experience moments of happiness and can also say when they don’t feel happy. Positive psychology is a science that focuses on the virtues and strengths that make it possible for people to thrive. Happiness comes with the discovery of individual strengths and reinforcing them in life. It is a psychological wellbeing that brings internal satisfaction and not necessarily with the presence of material things. Happiness is pleasurable but most importantly, it involves engagement and finding meaning in life. People can choose to be happy even when all does not seem to work materially.

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